tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post4352433839079137919..comments2024-01-04T01:16:23.041-05:00Comments on Life After Stern College: Looking Over Your ShoulderSternGradhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-71158034186754966252010-08-14T23:47:43.670-04:002010-08-14T23:47:43.670-04:00as people we are physical beings and as such are a...as people we are physical beings and as such are attracted to physical things such as looks and it takes depth to go beyond the surface. i have a friend who was thinking of saying no to a guy cuz she didnt think they would look good together..thats obviously not a good enough reason to break a shidduch but on the other hand if he disgusts you..then you cant build on that either-you have to be able to stand to look at your husband..aminspirationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02226594722883362146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-22778554602084021292010-08-12T20:02:21.052-04:002010-08-12T20:02:21.052-04:00Sun Inside Rain (SiR?)- I completely agree with yo...Sun Inside Rain (SiR?)- I completely agree with your attitude. In life you always have to focus on what you do have and not what you could have.<br /><br />Bookworm- yes, of course looks are not the most important thing. Personality is much more important. No question. But if there are two equally nice guys with great middos, and you are attracted to one and not the other (note: this is subjective), wouldn't you pick the one you're attracted to? You have to be attracted to the person you marry. If I had to pick a bad-looking guy who is nice or a good-looking guy who is mean, I wouldn't even think twice about picking the nice guy. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't think, "Hey, that other guy is more attractive, even if he is mean..."SternGradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-12532520963774225502010-08-12T12:33:22.496-04:002010-08-12T12:33:22.496-04:00I come from a family where beauty (in either men o...I come from a family where beauty (in either men or women) is appreciated. But that's what it is - appreciated. It's not a "I want that!" reaction. It's "That's nice. I could look at this for a bit."<br /><br />While of course I appreciate a handsome feller, that's not my priority in my future husband. Looks fade, except in a few rare cases of good genes, so I might as well appreciate the sights of some gorgeous strangers and marry the personality that will have to withstand time.Bookwormnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-22945639714182042702010-08-11T10:35:49.947-04:002010-08-11T10:35:49.947-04:00I'll admit, I've been guilty of doing that...I'll admit, I've been guilty of doing that when I started dating, and just recently someone was telling me about a date she'd gone on that night and she didn't want her guy because there was a much better looking date next to her.<br /><br />My answer to myself and to her was: the fact is you can't have that other guy. Right now, your date is the only one. If you're always looking out for something better, how can you ever be happy with the choice that you will ultimately make? There are always better guys out there, but if they're not better for YOU (and who says they'd be interested in you anyway), then who is going to lose out by looking over your shoulder?Sun Inside Rainhttp://www.suninsiderain.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com