tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post437271570915590615..comments2024-01-04T01:16:23.041-05:00Comments on Life After Stern College: Connect or Disconnect?SternGradhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-79173888950127622632011-09-08T22:09:52.878-04:002011-09-08T22:09:52.878-04:00Tikva4eva- You're right. I phrased that wrong...Tikva4eva- You're right. I phrased that wrong. Let me rephrase. I obviously agree that connecting with someone in real life, face to face, is more meaningful than connecting with someone through a medium like a phone or a computer. I mean, no matter how many times I skype with a friend who is in a different city, state or country, I still miss them, and it is most certainly not the same as the relationship I have with a friend who I see in person every day, or every week, or every month. I also believe strongly that when you are with someone in PERSON, that person comes first. It is rude to text or answer your phone or otherwise interupt when you are with someone in person.<br /><br />What I meant by that statement was not that in person is not more meaningful (it is more meaningful), but I meant that communication through a phone or email is still connecting, the same way that talking in person is connecting. In some cases, even, email or texting is a more powerful way to send the message that you want to give. For example, if there is a lot of information, like if I want to send a recipe or an address, or something like that, email is more effective than telling the person verbally, face to face, because they will never remember it. And sure, DMCs are great in person, but sometimes in certain relationships, email is better. Sometimes it is easier to express oneself when you have time to think about what to say instead of responding in person. I have had some of my most important conversations that changed my relationships with people using email. Why? Because I needed time to think about what she was saying and process it and think deeply about my response before responding, and she needed the same. That kind of conversation could have never happened in person.<br /><br />In person connection is better in the sense that it is more meaningful and in that it should always take priority when technology tries to conflict with it. But it is not better in that it is always the most effective way to communicate information.SternGradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-68819523223605515482011-09-08T10:56:43.141-04:002011-09-08T10:56:43.141-04:00Like what tikva4eva said, I didn't see the vid...Like what tikva4eva said, I didn't see the video as being against technology. Technology is a tool, and can only be misused by their handlers. What I saw from the video was people being ignored by their companions because something "better" could be had on the phone, by conversing with the people not there rather than those present. Then they chose to put it aside and give others their undivided attention.<br /><br />Blaming the phones themselves would be too easy. And I have seen so many times how children are ignored by their parents, or vice versa, because they don't have the awareness or self-control to pack away the stupid phone. <br /><br />As it happens, I don't have a texting plan. :)Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-9579616900802917032011-09-07T22:18:40.777-04:002011-09-07T22:18:40.777-04:00"Connecting to people in real life is not inh..."Connecting to people in real life is not inherently better than connecting to people through technology." Wait- what? uh...yes it is! When do you feel more connected to your friend? When you are having a dmc with her late Friday night after the meal, when you are both there in person and there is no phone or computer to distract you and you can hold her hand need it be.... or, having that same conversation through the means of text messages. And beyond that, if you have something important to discuss with someone you actually care about, I'd guess that you'd meet in person, or at least want to! Even speaking on the phone perhaps may not be good enough. Of course connecting to people in real life is better than through technology.<br /><br />I don't think this video was trying to say you should never use technology or technology was evil. In fact, it depicted several scenarios- where it would be appropriate to COMPLETELY disconnect from technology. In any case, I think the main point was to really make people more aware. Sometimes, when you are so immersed in something, you don't realize your immersed in it. Again, I think this video's intention was to make people more aware about the loss one may experience when they are so obsessed with technology, to the point that it interferes with REAL relationships.tikva4evanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-27194566574809444702011-09-07T22:11:22.768-04:002011-09-07T22:11:22.768-04:00Professor- I understand your reasoning.
Princess ...Professor- I understand your reasoning.<br /><br />Princess Lea- I like your idea of why such a video is a Jewish idea, and I completely agree that respect is important. However I didn't feel the message of the video was "be kind to people, and don't ignore them" so much as it was mostly about being against technology. Respecting others is important and is most definitely an important issue.<br /><br />With regards to Facebook- good for you! We should be careful about who we allow to see our private information online, that is the way to go.SternGradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-62644656953671213752011-09-07T11:52:08.774-04:002011-09-07T11:52:08.774-04:00I was in a restaurant recently, and two girls came...I was in a restaurant recently, and two girls came in, sat down across from each other, and proceeded t text. They wouldn't even crack a smile at each other. It was one of the most bizarre things I have ever seen. <br /><br />I think it is important as a Jewish issue, because texting mindlessly disparages others. Before we work on ben adam l'Makom, we have to get ben adam l'chaveiro right. We have to respect and appreciate others. It is very much a Jewish issue. <br /><br />As for FB, I agree with you. I have been friended and I ask, "Do I know you?" which they can't answer. So many just want to up their friend numbers. OK, maybe I'm "nebbie" with under 100 friends, but my private info is not going to be indiscriminately seen by strangers.Princess Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217157534383672867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-41113067190047802492011-09-07T00:39:20.861-04:002011-09-07T00:39:20.861-04:00There are those who argue that facebook is meant f...There are those who argue that facebook is meant for making new friends... I cant say I agree with them, but its a position ive heard many ppl take. In general i find the whole idea of becoming friends with someone online slightly shady. Not to say it cant happen; ive made a few what i would consider close friends through blogging.<br /><br />I am one of those who feel that there is no need for me to be aware of everything thats happening in the lives of every person ive ever met. Putting them under the word friend is even more disturbing to me. (I just had to write a paper on that whole concept.) Email allows me to keep in contact with the people I care to be in touch with. <br /><br />The only social network im slightly excited about is google plus. But for now not enough people that I know have it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-2223588211315202892011-09-06T22:26:31.925-04:002011-09-06T22:26:31.925-04:00Professor- See that's what I'm talking abo...Professor- See that's what I'm talking about- why do people accept friend requests from people they don't know? Your friend was using Facebook wrong. Honestly, I rarely get friend requests from people I actually don't know, and when that happens every other month or so, I don't accept it, and that's the end of that. The benefits of being able to stay in touch are worth it.<br /><br />Email is great for sending a message to someone, for one on one intreactions, but it is completely difference than Facebook, which is a lot of people all at one place at once- like having a conversation with one friend vs. going to a party. Also, Facebook is more passive, and therefore easier. For those of us who are terrible at keeping in touch, we don't have to actively email someone, we can just read what they post, and know what is going on in their lives, and comment. What about the people you're just friendly with, but not actually close with, who you aren't close enough to email and who probably won't email you? Some say they don't mind losing touch with those people, and that's valid, but I love being able to see pictures that someone from high school posted of their baby or finding out that a girl from camp found her dream job or things like that. But that's just me, and I do understand not having Facebook.SternGradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4895527034843171824.post-29173109780920108122011-09-06T00:24:08.210-04:002011-09-06T00:24:08.210-04:00I agree very much with your fist point. I feel the...I agree very much with your fist point. I feel the same way. The problem isnt technology but its being abused. We dont see campaigns trumpeting the banning painkillers although they can be used in a bad way. The campaigns should be focused on telling people how to use technology properly.<br /><br />Re. facebook, I happen not to be a fan. I had an account for a while, and was inundated with friend requests from girls (and guys) who i didnt know. The whole concept just seemed sort of wrong to me. When I later had a friend who got into this whole weird relationship with some random girl he met on facebook that just strengthened my resolve; I closed my account and am off. Good old email works just fine for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com